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How Marriage Counseling Can Save Your Marriage
There are many marriages that are breaking down today. And the reason can be partly due to a breakdown in communication in the marriage and partly due to a selfish desire to satisfy only oneself in a relationship that is meant to be a partnership. These problems would soon make the couple drift apart from each other such that the best solution that they could think of is to get a divorce. If you are married and feel that this is slowly happening to you, then you still have a chance of repairing the broken relationship you have with your spouse through marriage counseling.
Agreeing that marriage counseling is a solution to their marriage problem is one way to ensure its success. If one party is unwilling to go for counseling then even if he/she is forced to do it, it will be more difficult to succeed because success depends on the efforts of both parties. Marriage counseling will only work if both parties cooperate and work together. With both parties, it would be easier to come up with solutions to marital problems since each one of his/her part will be willing to contribute to solving the problem. When there is unfaithfulness in the marriage, then this also may be a factor for marriage counseling to fail. If there is unfaithfulness in the marriage relationship then this means that the love for the spouse is completely thrown out and will be very difficult to restore and so marriage counseling can fail here.
The marriage counselor acts as the mediator or the one that is in control of the sessions so that one party speaks up his/her heart and thoughts, there will be no fear of being cut off, rejected, shouted at, hit, or any other negative response from the other. When the couple has vented out their thoughts and feelings, the counselor will evaluate everything that has been said, and inform them where their mistakes actually lie. Many times it is just all about who is right, but this is not the real issue. When there is a problem, both couples should work together to solve their problem. A counselor would help them realize their mistakes and help them to learn many lessons and correct behavioral issues.
A counselor would strive to help the spouses forgive each other’s faults. The start of healing will come when wrong words and wrong actions are forgiven. Once each realizes their failures and tries to make up for it, then it is a good sign and a good start of repairing the broken relationship that is existing in the marriage.
Couples who are on the brink of divorce can still save their marriages through marriage counseling.